Reasons why you should marry a black woman

 ....by Solomon Izang Ashoms

I love Black women, not just because I am married to a beautiful Black Zulu woman but because the Black culture transforms every Black woman (if she is willing) into a GREAT WIFE! Yes, from the Xhosa tribe in South Africa to Swahilis in most of East Africa, the Ibos and Yorubas in Nigeria and the Ashanti in Ghana, it’s all the same. A Black woman learns how to be a complete wife, mother and individual. Just ask our Elders and I guess that is why you pay lobola when marrying a Black woman, as a confirmation of a future good relationship with her family.




 In general, the Black woman is groomed from childhood to be everything a man needs from a woman and a wife. She is educated and skilled in cooking, washing, house-keeping and creating love in the home for her husband and children. She is wise and smart in making decisions for her home despite her imperfections. She has knowledge and experience in entertaining guests. She knows when her husband needs his space and how to coax him out of it. You will hardly find a Black woman that doesn’t know what it takes to do that. She is strong, wise and loving. I think I can speak on behalf of all men married to a wonderful Black woman – our most sincere thanks to those women’s mothers and grandmothers!


 So whatever your skin colour, I highly recommend to you the beautiful, elegant, classy and intelligent Black woman as a future wife. Here is why:

She is Not Selfish – The backbone of a lasting marriage is self-giving, selflessness. This is a higher level of commitment. I am not saying you should lose yourself and become a ‘slave’. Black women are raised to not be selfish, but to reciprocate love and give excessively to her family and children. I strongly feel it was Black women who first demonstrated “Ubuntu”. That said, there is a difference between having healthy boundaries and being selfish. Selfishness causes a breakdown in intimacy and vulnerability and leads to always being suspicious of your partner. Healthy boundaries create an environment that fosters open, honest and respectful communication. So if you meet a Black woman who is not selfish, marry her.

 She is Not Jealous – A lot of women are jealous by nature, and that doesn’t change when they get married. So I recommend the Black woman who is taught to manage her jealousy for the sake of community living; for the sake of creating a happy home. I’m not talking about a woman who is prepared to ‘put up’ with anything. Yes, some may argue that a healthy level of jealousy is actually good for a relationship. A little is OK but too much of it brings insecurity, and is an expression of low self-esteem. A Black woman does not behave in an unseemly manner. She has learnt how to balance her own expectations with that of others, and maintain her dignity.

 If you meet a Black woman who is not jealous, marry her.

 She is Not Materialistic – The majority of Black women dream of getting married to a man who will take really good care of them. A man that understands and lives the words – “for better or worse, until death do us part”. A Black woman doesn’t want to get married for money, although there is nothing wrong with living a comfortable life. For a Black woman, a happy family is more important than riches. The evidence of true riches for her is the happiness and good health of her husband and children. This is 2014 and yes, the single ladies are showing how independent they are. But don’t confuse her independence to mean she is materialistic. A Black woman is still very focused on fulfilling the part of the marriage vow that says “for richer or poorer”.

 If you meet a Black woman who is not after your money, marry her. She Loves Sex but Won’t Cheat – Black women love sex, for fun and procreation. She understands that sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but she will give you the best sex of your life – a close- to-heaven, out-of-body-in-your-body experience. Her desire is to be satisfied by the man she loves, and not to be satisfied for the sake of satisfaction. Her sex drive is high and she will satisfy her husband without complaining – especially not of a headache! She values the sense of togetherness and oneness that can only truly be found in marriage. Her awareness of the intimacy that is created through sex with her husband is the stuff legends are made of.

 If you meet a Black woman who loves sex and doesn’t cheat, marry her.

 She Loves God – A Black woman is always spiritual and you can’t divorce her from her beliefs. Prayer is not a routine but a lifestyle. The day starts and ends with prayer. She knows that her true beauty is revealed in the presence of God. She attends church regularly and has a good report among her peers. You will certainly be in good hands because daily, she will pray for your health, job, business, and children. She is a lover of Jesus and understands the value of His death on the cross. She talks the talks and walks the walk, and practices what she preaches. If you meet a Black woman who loves God, marry her.

 Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against women of other races. I think they are also great. I am just sharing, from my personal experience and those of other men, the top 5 qualities and reasons why marrying a Black woman is so awesome. I’m talking about the kind of Black woman I grew up to know, the one who works hard to get educated, take care of the family, denies herself for the sake of family, and carries a huge sense of community. If you meet a Black woman who is none of these, do not marry her, she is not a TRUE BLACK WOMAN! But I know you want to, so just marry that Black woman, brother! Enjoy your holiday. What are your thoughts on what makes Black women unique? Do you agree with my reasons?

5 crucial things that men wants

Arguably,  the male psyche is not as simple as they claim; Men too are complicated. They just have more control of their emotions than women do. Like women, men too have needs, understanding these needs will help you as a woman to coexist with them better. Here they are:
 
1-Respect
So what is it that men want? One of the things men is want respect. That means a man wants to be held in esteem and to be shown consideration and appreciation—even when he makes mistakes. He wants to be seen as a hero, especially in the eyes of his bride. He needs someone to believe in him when the odds are stacked against him. If a man doesn’t feel respected, his self esteem gets diminished,  and some can even result into violence feeling if you cafindrespect them, they will take it by force. Women crave attention,  men just want respect.


2-Your Smile
Do you know that your smile is fantastic? You can charm everybody with it, especially your man. Let him enjoy the warmth of your happy smile. Surely, every man wants to have an optimistic woman in his life who will always share her positive emotions with him. If a girl is happy that means she has a loving and caring boy. By showing your happiness to your guy you’ll give him an opportunity to understand how good he is. Remember that such small thing like your smile contributes greatly to your relationship with the one you love.


3-Space
Research showed that male and female desire is a case of independence and intimacy. With the male being primarily drawn towards independence and the feminine toward intimacy. A man likes his space every once in a while, he needs to know that he is still in control and you haven't changed his masculinity. Be rest assured, suffocating a man (either by failing to allow him free time or with overly jealous behaviour) is the fastest way to end a relationship. Men need breathing room in a relationship. We need time for our hobbies, time with our friends, and time to toil away on our projects to feel fulfilled.

So let him roam. Let him breathe. Leave him to his own devices. A man will be that much happier for you to receive him when he returns, knowing that you trust both him and the strength of your bond enough to let him have his space.



4-Security
Men and women are both attracted to certainty in a relationship. Most men tend to hide how they truly feel about a woman because they fear it shows their vulnerability which that lady may take advantage of. The more a man feels like his partner is in it for the long haul, the more ready and able he is to be able to open up to her.
But security goes deeper than just the fact that you won’t leave him. The security that he feels ties back in to several of these points. He feels secure in knowing that you approve of him and where he is in his career. He feels secure and loved when you touch him non-sexually throughout the day. He feels secure when he is allowed to have his guys’ nights away from you and you don’t feel the need to call or text him every half hour to check in.
And he feels secure with a partner who takes steps to love him in the way that he most needs.

5-Acceptance
Men NEED to feel that regardless of their shortcomings, you will still love them anyways. When we stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, litters his clothes round the house, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love us anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.

Unconditional support from their women is what will snap them out of their boyish behavior and injecusthem with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept him for who he is, will he want to become someone better.

GUYS WOULD YOU HAVE S*X WITH YOUR LADY ON HER PERIOD?

Guys would you want to have sex if she is on her menstral period?

We know upon see this, the first thought that came into the minds of most men was, eeeewwwww!!! Yeah! Yeah!!! But we just asking.

Menstruation has been viewed as dirty from time immemorial and even the Bible mentions it and sees it as a taboo, but this doesn’t mean men do not have s3x with women these days if they are menstruating. Some men do it a lot and it will surprise you to know that some women actually love to have s3x during their periods. Some women really feel horny during menstruation and will prefer to have s3x during this times.

So we wish to ask, what is it that really prevents us from having s3x during menstruation? 

Today, we wish to point out some of the reasons why.

S3x during menstruation is viewed as a taboo in many cultures and when a woman is menstruating, she’s seen to be dirty or soiled. In ancient times in the Akan community, when a woman menstruates, she’s made to live alone in an obscure corner of the house. She’s not allowed to eat from the same pot as everybody, she can’t even wear her usual clothes, she’s made to wear sack cloth till her menses are over and when it’s over, she doesn’t bring or add the clothes she wears during her menses to the ones she has, she leaves them behind till another period. The name “Nfikyire” was derived from these condition. This tells you how menstruation is viewed among our community.

But is menstruation really dirty? In a more closer look, menstruation is not actually dirty, it is actually a rebirth and it’s not contaminated in anyway, but some men actually fear it even more than EBOLA. Menstruation simply means, the female egg that was released was not fertilized and so it is shed as blood for a new egg to be released is actually not anything dirty or dangerous.

To shed more light on this, let’s look at some of the reasons why men will not want to have s3x during a woman’s period.

One of the main reasons is because it’s Messy, which is very true. If a woman should drop her pants and she’s in her menses, the sight might put you off even if she’s using a good tampon or sanitary pad, the place wouldn’t look pleasant and so most men wouldn’t want to even near the environment. But there’s always a way around it, the woman can clean it up by bathing and washing it off thoroughly and the man can also use a condom. What you also need to know is that, when a woman is aroused even in her menses, the flow will slow down or stop completely. It’s similar to when a man feels like peeing while having s3x, if he’s about to ejaculate, the urine will recede backwards to allow the sperms to take over, same with women when they are menstruating. During foreplay, when her “juices” starts to flow, the blood will slow down or stop completely to allow the “juices” to take over. 

Another thing you need to understand if you want to have s3x during your period, is not to have it on your first 3 days, you should make sure it has subsided when the flow is light, not on your first day when the flow is heavy, it’s not a good idea and will not even make the s3x appealing, because the blood will even feel like water and at some point will thicken making thrusting difficult or sticky. You can also purchase a product in the pharmacy known as “INSTEAD” and it acts like a diaphragm. The woman inserts it and it covers the cervix, holding the blood in place.

The second point is, it’s stinks. Most men do not like the scent that emanates from a woman during her period, but these days, the sanitary pads on the market are scented nicely, making them smell good but all the same the woman should take her hygiene seriously during this period, if she’s really the type that will love to have s3x during her menses.

Another argument out there is that, during a woman’s period, the risk of being infected with STD’s or STI’s is very high, which is very true because the cervix dilates, making it easier for bacteria and viruses to go back and forth. This is why it’s important to wear a condom, if you find yourself in the situation.

Another is reason is the fear of blood, that’s haemophobia. Some men naturally have fear for blood and wouldn’t want to even see blood, how much more when it’s coming from a hole they can’t trust. In such a situation, we won’t advice you even try it.

Some women also have Memophobia, such women hate the idea of even having s3x with them while they menstruating, which means they find it either embarrassing or they’ve been brainwashed to believe it’s dirty.

Now let’s find out the importance of having s3x during your period. What so important about that time that you even need to bother. 

Fact is, having s3x during your menstrual period, you are sure of not getting pregnant because at that time you know you’ve shed your egg so there’s no egg to fertilize.

Hey! Guys! It’s not time to jubilate yet, you need to know that, some women are unique, so there’s the minute chance some women will release an egg even during their menses but the chances are very small. So Yes! there’s the possibility a woman can get pregnant during her menstrual period.

Another reason you may want to have s3x during her menstrual period is that, some women easily achieve an orgasm during this periods, this is because during this time, women are highly sensitive and are easily aroused. Their libido shoots to the roof top if you know what I mean.

Another important and a big reason why some women may want to have s3x during their periods is because when she has s3x during this time, it helps solve menstrual cramps. Women who have severe pain during their periods will want to have s3x around this time to soothe their pain and surprisingly it works.

So ladies, if you know you’re the type, who loves to have s*x during your periods, it’s important you discuss with your man and if he doesn’t want to, you need to respect his opinion. 

You must discuss this at the right time, not when you are probably eating…that’s yuck!!! He might respond with a big NO!! Know the right time, place and how to say it.

On a more general note, what you need to understand is that, most men will say No! especially in our part of the world and so be prepared and if you’re in a Muslim community and you have this urges, please forget it, it won’t work, in fact, don’t even mention it.

So Guys would you want to have s3x if she’s on her menstrual period?

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GUYs: 20 THINGS TO SAY TO YOUR LADY

 THERE are a lot of men out there who simply do not know how to say romantic things to a woman. And yet, women love to hear sweet nothings whispered in their ears. They love to listen to a guy telling them creative and romantic things during those intimate moments.

Any man who can learn to speak the seductive language of sensual romance will be able to generate greater amounts of passion and appreciation from his woman. Although many men out there are not creative enough to say romantic things to their woman, fret not, there’s good news.

With a bit of practice, any man can learn how to say romantic things to his woman. The art of speaking romantically is a fine one, and only the guys who take the time to master the language of romance will reap the rewards of their most valiant efforts.

Here is a list of 20 romantic things to say to a woman that will help any guy to get started.

1. “I don’t have a reason for loving you. Because if I had a reason for loving you…I’m afraid that I’d also have a reason for leaving you.”

2. “You know, I think you’re my favorite person in the world.” (with a playful smile while looking into her eyes)

3. “I wish I could be with you forever, but that still wouldn’t be enough time to love you.”

4. “This feels right.” (while embracing her tightly and romantically)

5. “I miss you already.” (say something like this right after you’ve finished spending a romantic evening together)

6. “Kiss me again.” (look deep into her eyes, pull her close, and demand it…in a sexy romantic way)

7. “You’re amazing.” (right after intimacy, say this to her, but be sincere and kiss her shoulder or forehead)

8. “I wouldn’t trade this night for the world.”

9. “Relax, let me love you completely.” (this is an excellent romantic thing to say to create a sense of comfort and security as you get intimate with your woman)

10. “She’s priceless, irreplaceable, and she’s mine.” (say this to someone else in reference to your woman, but say it when your woman is around to hear it)

11. “This feels like a dream.”

12. “I’ve never felt this way about anyone before.”

13. “Wrap your arms around me.”

14. “I’ve been thinking about you, and I think I miss you.” (give her a random call and say this in a playful and romantic way)

15. “Talk to me, I’ve missed you.” (say this while holding her hands and lightly stroking it)

16. “I love the way you taste.”

17. “I’ve dreamed about this moment my whole life.” (pick a special moment with her to say this)

18. “I’m yours.”

19. “My life would be a prison without your love.”

20. “You inspire me.”

The most important thing to take away from this sample list of romantic things to say to a woman is that it should be in the moment and always fun, playful, and romantic. Depending on the moment, you can say romantic things that are sexy or sweet, but always be sincere with what you’re saying.

Also, keep in mind that your woman is different from any other, and you should understand what her deepest romantic desires are. Say romantic things that are unique to her interests and passions. Tell her romantic things that make her feel sexy, desired, and more importantly, special.